The freedom to choose

Some of us have figured out how to be ourselves and welcome others into our lives. We’ve done the inner work. We know how to be heard and how to listen and respond. For the most part, life works. We’re not stuck—we’re respected. People come to us for clarity, for calm. We navigate things well. We can make choices.

But then, something shifts. What do I actually want? If no one else is steering… where do I go from here? It can feel strange, even disorienting. Not because we’re lost, but because we are free. And with that freedom comes a new kind of responsibility: What will I choose, now that I know I can?

This isn’t a crisis. It’s emergence. The start of an internal reorientation—from tuning into others, to tuning into ourselves. And that shift can raise new kinds of questions: What matters to me? What am I willing to risk for meaning? What happens if I step away from what’s expected, and toward what’s true?

What if the hardest part of having agency… is knowing there’s no one else to blame if we waste it?

Therapy can be a place to sit with these questions, without pressure. A space where we’re not trying to fix ourselves—but to hear ourselves clearly. Where we’re allowed to wonder what we truly want—without rushing toward an answer.